However, for many of us, opening the heart means opening to a lifetime’s accumulation of unacknowledged sorrow, both our personal sorrows and the universal sorrows of warfare, hunger, old age, illness, and death. Sometimes we may experience this sorrow physically, as contractions and barriers around our heart, but more often we feel the depth of our wounds, our abandonment, our pain, as unshed tears.
Meditation is an invaluable tool in healing the heart as it gradually opens. When we meditate, the grief we have carried for so long, from pains and dashed expectations and hopes, arises. Our task in meditation is first to let them move through us, then to recognize them and allow them to sing their songs.
What we find as we listen to the songs of our sorrows, loneliness or longing, is that they do not stay forever. As we heal through meditation, our hearts break open to feel fully. We grieve for our past traumas and present fears, for all of the feelings we never dared experience consciously. However, out of this grief work comes deep renewal.
Eternal True Nature
For those of us who practice the Inner Light and Sound Meditation, we will gradually realize and experience our True Eternal Nature and God-Source. The more we realize or experience Source, the more blissful we become. We truly know that all humans are Eternal Beings of Consciousness or Spirit!
We never “die”; there is no “death”. Only our physical body ceases to function at the end of our time here on Earth; we just change out one form of clothing (physical body) for a lighter form of “clothing” (light body, crystal body, plasma body, spirit body, etc.) as we ascend or (move higher or more inward) on the inner spheres. Life in eternal!
Gradually as our planet ascends and becomes lighter, the future generations of humanity will bring back the potential of true biological ascension and transmute their physical body to light, thereby taking their physical body with them when their incarnation on Earth is complete.
There will be no more warfare, hunger, old age, illness, and death when Earth ascends to a higher dimension and becomes a Star, which will come to fruition hundreds of years from now in linear time. In Truth, Earth is already a Star and has already ascended in the Eternal Now. We just need to raise our consciousness to experience life in the higher dimensions while having a physical body.
The more we know Source, the more we experience life in a loving and safe Cosmos, even though there are still warfare and other problems on this physical planet. We are transitioning into the New Age of Enlightenment or a Thousand Years of Peace in the Golden Age, so it will take some time, but we will get there. : )
The more we know Source, the more we experience all of our needs being taken care of, and that we live in an abundant Universe.
Healing a Broken Heart
There’s no question that breakups can be painful, and that it’s difficult to trust and love again. But there are ways to get past the pain. Here are 17 techniques on how to mend your heart and to move on.
1. Take time out for yourself: Take a week, a month or longer to do whatever it is you love most. Whether it’s surfing, hiking, gardening, reading, cooking or simply being around your friends. Use the opportunity to surround yourself with happy people and do the things that make you happy.
2. Go through it, not around it: You have to grieve in order to move on. By going through the pain, you eventually will surface as a stronger person ready to tackle problems head on. Soon the pain will lose its stronghold over you.
3. Start a journal to record how you feel: Writing things down can be a powerful release. It’s called “catharsis,” where you purify your mind through expression. Write about whatever you want to write about. You’ll feel a lot better after you do.
4. Stand on your own: You don’t need anyone or anything to make you happy. That job is all your own, with a little help from God.
5. Remove all the memories of the person from your everyday life: You’re not trying to pretend like the person never existed, just temporarily forget how much they meant to you and how they broke your heart. Go through your room and remove all pictures of, letters from, references to the person you’re trying to stop obsessing over.
6. Detach: The Buddha taught that attachment leads to suffering. So the most direct path to peace and happiness is detachment.
7. Exercise and eat right: Go the gym or get outside and sweat. Physical activity increases the amount of serotonin in the brain, which acts like a natural antidepressant, improving your mood. Eat a diet rich in fruits and vegetables, nuts and legumes, whole grains, and water. These will not only make you look fantastic, but feel fantastic as well.
8. Gratitude: Make a list of what you do have in your life and be grateful for them.
9. Volunteer: Learn to give back to your community, however big or small it is. Volunteering will help you see the real impact you have on people’s lives. When you turn your attention to helping another person or working for a worthy cause, you forget about yourself and your loss.
10. Learn from your mistakes: Everyone makes mistakes. It’s how you learn from them that defines you as a person. Figure out what went wrong in your relationship, or what wasn’t so great about the other person. This way you can grow in the future, or look for better traits in your next partner.
11. Forgive the other person: Forgiveness is an important part of healing your broken heart. In order to move on, you need to forgive the other person, or you’ll constantly be thinking about them or wondering why they hurt you.
12. Laugh and cry: Laughter heals on many levels and so does crying. You always feel better after a good cry. So go grab a box of Kleenex and cry your afternoon away.
13. Channel your energy into new activities: What we miss when a relationship ends is that we can’t express our love anymore. We can’t express our excitement to someone who’s interested because they’re interested in you. You can continue this form of heartfelt expression, however, by writing poetry, drawing, painting, singing, dancing, etc. Do whatever it takes to allow you to transform your pain into something productive.
14. Pick up a new skill: Try doing something you know little about, so it forces you to engage in the world in a different way. Try glass-blowing, ceramics, a new instrument, or sky or cave diving. Be adventurous and open to new possibilities.
15. Traveling: Take a trip. The world is such a big, beautiful place; you should take advantage of it. Traveling, meeting people, and new sceneries can do wonders for your broken heart.
16. Remember the two-year rule: It takes two years to learn a new job, two years to get accustomed to a new town, and two years to completely heal a broken heart.
17. Love deeply. Again and again: Once our hearts are bruised and burned from a relationship that ended, we have two options: we can close off pieces of our heart or we can love again. Henri Nouwen urges to love again because the heart only expands with the love we are able to pour forth.
Time and Faith
Believe it or not, broken hearts DO heal. One of the best healers is time. The other is faith. Below are 10 spiritual healing quotes for a broken heart. May they bring you peace:
“The wound is the place where the Light enters you.”
“When one door of happiness closes, another opens, but often we look so long at the closed door that we do not see the one that has opened for us.”
“Be still my heart while God is healing me inside!”
– Marcia Bundalian-Stephen
“As you grow older the call comes from your intuition and your deepest sense of self to search for a spiritual identity and find meaning in life.”
– Lynne Namka
“We must be willing to let go of the life we have planned, so as to have the life that is waiting for us.”
– E.M. Forster
“Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.”
“When love is lost, do not bow your head in sadness; instead keep your head up high and gaze into heaven for that is where your broken heart has been sent to heal.”
– Author Unknown
“Pain is inevitable in life, but suffering is optional.”
– The Buddha
“No matter what pain you’ve been through, tears will dry, broken hearts will heal, and somewhere out there the person who truly cares is waiting.”
– Author Unknown
“You never lose by loving. You always lose by holding back.”
– Barbara De Angelis