Image of happy and fulfilled people of different races. In Pursuit Of Fulfillment

In Pursuit Of Fulfillment


Let’s examine a real life example of someone who is living an extraordinary life, Stever Robbins. Stever performed an experiment on living an extraordinary life.


The Conditions of Stever’s Hypothesis


  1. Pursue the perfect 10.
  2. Choose for the journeys, not for the goals. (The journey is the reward!)
  3. Put fun, passion and meaning first.
  4. Don’t engage in hard work. (“Hard work” in his case is work that he doesn’t enjoy doing. It doesn’t mean that he doesn’t do things that require a lot of effort or a lot of hours. He can spend hours doing things that he loves and to him, it’s not hard work. I think that most of us feel the same way.)
  5. Let go of planning and instead create luck. (In his case, luck is people, places and conversations that he has).
  6. Money is Okay!


Stever’s Hypothesis: If I live according to these conditions, then this will lead to having an extraordinary life and hopefully making a living. At the very least, it would lead to an extraordinary life.


Results of Stever’s 3 Years Experiment


Stever set aside 3 years of living money. For three years, he removed money from his decision making and lived according to the above conditions to see what would happen. He did and what happened was nothing short of extraordinary. Read more

Image of a group of employees representing all races at work. In Pursuit Of Success

In Pursuit Of Success


Let’s take a deeper look at the journey of those who choose to pursue success first. You work hard now and once you’ve made your fortune, then you’ll be able to do what you want.


It sounds like a great theory and it does work for those who choose a traditional career that happens to be the one they love and are passionate about, such as investment banker, scientist, doctor, lawyer, etc. But for those of us who are not interested in traditional careers, this doesn’t seem to be a good strategy. In fact, it can be a dangerous strategy. Here are some reasons why:


  1. We gradually engage in self-deception. You might say something like: “I dislike bankruptcy law but I am going to do it for 20 years, and then I will retire and do what I want.” Twenty years later, you reached your goal; you have enough money to retire at the age of 46. Ironically, at that point you are convinced that the thing you dislike most, bankruptcy law, is really the thing that’s going to save the world. You managed to convince yourself that the thing you disliked was what you really wanted to do. One of the tests for that is to ask yourself and you have to ask yourself before you engage in self-deception: Would you still do this thing if you weren’t being paid?


  1. When you have a deferred job, your psychological identity gets wrapped up around that and if you do that for 10 or 15 years, you begin to define yourself as a lawyer or as a banker and it will be hard and stressful to get out of it. You become very psychologically deeply invested in the deferred job, not in the life that you want to have.


  1. Another problem with deferring what you really wanted to do is what if you never develop the skills in the job you want to do. If you’re putting off in becoming the dancer or singer, you’re not necessarily spending the time to train your body or your voice and getting to the point where you can do that. Also, you’re not building a network or creating the infrastructure that would allow you to do that easily. So, when the time comes to make the switch, you’re not part of the professional and social network.

Read more

Image of a lively blue flower with dew drops. Pursue Success, Fulfillment Or Both

Pursue Success, Fulfillment Or Both?


In the next four articles, I will analyze two choices that most of us take with our career path. You might fit in one of the two scenarios. If you do, this will help you to see where you are now, and to make the transition to where you want to be.


And if you’re just starting out with your career, then great! You will see the advantages and disadvantages of both and choose the path you’re comfortable with.


Two Strategies


The two strategies that we can choose with our career path are to either pursue success or to pursue fulfillment. Read more

Image of the moon and the Milky Way Galaxy against a lovely sunset. Extraordinary Life

What Is An Extraordinary Life?


Living an extraordinary life may have different meanings to different people. Here are some definitions of an extraordinary life.


An Extraordinary Life Is:


  1. A life in which you are fully YOU in all your glory.
  2. A life that takes your breath away.
  3. A life of purpose, passion and fulfillment.
  4. A life so perfect for you that you could not imagine a better one.
  5. A life that makes you feel truly alive.
  6. A life that beckons you awake in the morning and gets you excited to start your day and keeps you up at night dreaming of eternity.
  7. A life you love.
  8. A life worth living.
  9. A life of happiness and authenticity.
  10. A life in which your dreams are realized.
  11. A life that supports you being at your best, living in the moment, and evolving beyond your wildest imaginations.

Read more